Lately I’ve been thinking more about what it is to be a man. We talked about it in bible study this week for much longer than I was expecting, and it was one of the better discussions I’ve had in a few weeks.
This got me thinking of some of the talks that I heard at SEEK Conference last month about manhood. Dr. Johnathan Reyes did such a great job of comparing the signs that differentiates a boy from a man, and I’d like to share them with you:
- A boy is occupied by looking for fun. A man is occupied by his duties.
- A boy worries about whether others like him. A man cares more about whether he is respected.
- A boy is self-focused in all that he does. A man keeps his thoughts and gaze outwards, thinking of others first.
- A boy chooses the most comfortable option. A man makes sure to choose to do the right thing.
- A boy avoids responsibility. A man is responsible. In the business world, a man accepts the responsibility of owning a project.
- A boy becomes discouraged and gives up. A man perseveres through trial.
- A boy doesn’t change the environment that he is in. A man improves every environment that he enters.
- A boy views women as objects, as a “collection of body parts.” A man sees women as the whole person and respects and honors them in what he says and does.
- A boy needs rules to act uprightly. A man is self-disciplined.
- A boy brags about his accomplishments. A man does not exalt himself.
- A boy avoids commitment. A man’s word is good and he honors vows to death.
- A boy is governed by his passions. A man is governed by the truth.
This is a challenging list. But I think that it is important that we challenge ourselves and hold ourselves to a high standard (see the self-disciplined part). Are you where you want to be? I know that it’s a struggle. It is much easier to work on your journey to manhood when you do it together with a good friend or two. Share your desire to grow to become a better man with one another. And don’t forget to pray! Ask God to help give you the grace to overcome sinful tendencies.
Make war on sin, and start living like a man. Turn this Tedashii song up!